Thursday, October 20, 2011

I think I need a break

Are most toddlers difficult 90% of the time?  Or am I in the minority?  I feel like when we go to friends houses, their kids are generally in good working order.  Of course no kid is going to do what their parents ask 100% of the time, but they all seem willing to cooperate with their parents most of the time. 

I feel like Aiden fights EVERYTHING we want him to do.  He's happy when he's playing.  But the second we have to do something necessary to daily life (ie, brushing teeth, eating dinner, changing a diaper, getting dressed, bedtime, etc.) he throws a fit.  I feel like I'm constantly wrestling a midget.

Aiden has recently developed a shy streak.  I hate it.  I don't handle shyness very well.  SPEAK UP.  Speak when spoken to.  GAH.  COM'ON.  Whenever anyone aside from Travis or I ask him a direct question (friends, family, strangers), he looks at the ground and stops speaking.  Drives me insane.  It doesn't matter how much prompting we give him.  He won't answer. 

He also doesn't seem to like anyone aside from me.  He makes exceptions for Robert and Gpa (you'll note that Travis is not included here), but if he's cranky sometimes even they won't do.  Only me.  I am not a single parent!  Travis is here to help!  I have to BEG Aiden to let Daddy get his milk sometimes.  Or if he needs help opening a toy.  Mommy's making dinner, please let Daddy help.

I suppose the general exception to this is his teachers at daycare.  He talks to them no problem.  Oh and kids.  He'll talk to kids.

The other thing I've noticed recently is he carries Mr. Lion around with him EVERYWHERE when he's at home.  Mr. Lion is the first thing he wants when we get home.  (After he asks for milk, which he doesn't get until dinner, you can have water, WHY DO WE HAVE TO DO THIS EVERY DAY?)  He used to only have Mr. Lion at nap time/bed time.  Now he wants him all the time.  I don't let him take him out of the house for a couple reasons.  I don't want him to get filthy when he will be in bed at the end of the day.  And I don't want to lose/forget Mr. Lion.  That has happened one time, over the weekend, and it was the most stressful weekend of my life.  I don't think it's a big enough deal that we need to limit Lion Time to when he's in bed.  I'm hoping he'll get over this phase on his own.  What do you think?

7 comments:

Sara's Satire said...

My comments became so long I made them a blog of my own...so read them there! LOL

Anonymous said...

You're not alone! Faris acts the EXACT same way - the tantrums, only wanting me, the shyness. I'm ready for the 2s to be over!! -Kim

Nikki said...

As horrible as it is to say this, I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one having a problem with this! I'm hoping that means it will go away eventually??

Nikki said...

Oh and for future reference... http://sarassatire.blogspot.com/2011/10/response-to-nikkis-nutshell.html

Jenna said...

I agree with Sara about Aiden going through a stage with his fits. However, he is also trying to find his boundaries. So, you just have to stick to your guns and not give him his way everytime. He will try anything and everything to get out of whatever it is that he doesn't want to do.

As far as him always wanting you, and not Travis. I would recommend the same thing Sara said and have Travis and Aiden do things on their own some. With my kids, it never did change about always wanting me for everything. They always wanted me and still do!

He is at that "testing" stage. Keep your head up! And do take those breaks, Nikki! Even if it is to run to the grocery store alone. Sometimes it helps alot!

Alexa said...

All of these ladies have EXCELLENT advice!

This reminds me of when we were in Ohio and people wanted to hold Skylar. Of course she didn't want to go, what kid wants to do what they don't want to do? Especially a one year old that is TOTALLY attached to mommy (although she is showing shades of being a daddy's girl). However, I would just say 'you just need to take her'. They would, and within seconds of me walking off, she was FINE! You just need to tell Travis to 'JUST TAKE HIM!'. It won't be long until he is doing nothing but following Travis around. Trust me....it will flip flop just like Sara said. :)

ShannonElizabeth said...

For the record....JT and I were both painfully shy. We hide behind my Moms legs when we were around people we didn't know (and some we did know) until we were both around 5 years old.It is a stage and he will outgrow it. Hopefully before he is 5!